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 Jim Michael, MA, CHt

    
 

 Monday, 05 December 2005

 

 

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Sexual abuse in partner relationships...

Each of us has grown up in our own micro-culture of sexual understandings. What's right, what's wrong, when we should when we shouldn't...even who should and who shouldn't. I talk more about these things in my Sexual Questions section of my site. Sexual abuse is about complete control of another person.

While sexually abusive acts are part of physical abuse, there's a distinction between the two, as there is a difference in levels of control and power.

Sexual abuse is the complete control of an object, not a person where the person becomes the object.

See below and if anything below is happening, know that this is a MAJOR RED FLAG.   
 

Sexually abusive behaviors...

  1. Coercing or pressuring partner into sex (by threats, extortion, or the use of a consequence)

  2. Forcing sex

  3. Forcing or coercing prostitution

  4. Forced pregnancy

  5. Having affairs or other sexually acting out (this is more abuse of the relationship itself)

  6. Humiliating or causing physical pain without consent--"rough sex." We need to distinguish this from consensual SM/BD sexual expression in which both partners enjoy this expression.

  7. Intentionally infecting partner with STI, HIV

  8. Intentional becoming infected with HIV to control partner (look what you've done, you can't leave me now!)

  9. Refusing to practice safe sex

  10. Unwanted sexual touching

  11. Withholding sex

 
 

NEWS


 

Thank You Metropolitan Community Church
of
West Hollywood, California!

I had the honor of facilitating a discussion on

"Emotionally Safe Sex"

with the "Youth Tribe" on
Friday December 8, 2006

 

 
 
 

One example of sexual abuse...


I had a client once who had a partner who coerced my client into sex.

My client was far from home staying with an acquaintance, with whom my client had previous sexual relations a long time before.

My client had already set the limits with the acquaintance regarding and sexual relations (my client didn't want any), but the partner did not listen.

The partner was pressuring my client very subtly, but then did something very dramatic. My client entered a room where the partner had clearly displayed a gun on the table.

Implication? I will shoot you if you don't have sex with me.