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Sexual Questions...
Sex.
Sexuality. Sexual Expression. Sexual Orientation. Sexual Identity. From
“prude” to “pervert” it seems that no other topic has so much judgment
surrounding it. Sex. One of the first things to do to talk safely about sex
is to identify and accept that sex is...whether is be for pleasure or
procreation, sexuality is a part of being alive, and it is a topic that
seems to still be taboo for many.
And understandably so. Many people have been sexually abused, both girls,
and boys. Some have been used for sex. Some use sex as a weapon themselves.
Some use sex to escape intimacy, others to solidify the emotional and even
spiritual connection with their partner. Some people use porn to release
deeper anxieties or “energies”, some are identified as “frigid.”
If you have questions, concerns, thoughts, feelings, judgments, beliefs,
wants or desires that you feel the need to or simply would like to express,
and don’t have an outlet, let’s talk about it. Let’s talk about sex. Let’s
talk about what it means to you. From questions about what it means “to be a
man,” or what it means to be feminine, “to be a woman,” to questions about
sexual orientation or identity, let’s talk about it and and move safely
through any issues that are slowing you from fully living your life the way
that you want to.
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Intimacy...
Intimacy
is about connection; it has to do with connection and relationship.
Whether it be a friendship connection, a sexual connection, a romantic
relationship or a connection to a pet, sibling or even to God. Intimacy
is about how we relate to an other, and even how we relate to ourselves.
If
the first thing that you think of when you here the word “Intimacy,” is
“sex,” you might be surprised to know that there are actually
six different types of intimacy, only
one
is sexual.
In my work, and in my life, I define Intimacy as "a natural byproduct of
open, honest, communication." I also define it simply as "connection."
Intimacy can be scary, and it affects every area of our lives...
how close we are to our coworkers at work, our neighbors, our “intimate”
partners the person behind the counter at the local Starbucks. And
ultimately how we treat ourselves. Our ideas about intimacy can affect
our anxiety levels, and how we cope in life.
Helping you identify, explore and create effective life coping
strategies is one of my intentions. So give me a call, set up an
appointment, let’s talk about anxiety, at your speed and no
faster, let’s talk about intentions, and keep or get your life
going at the speed you want your life to go. what you want.
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Coming Out...from what closet, and what does the closet really represent?The phrase "coming out" often is related to a man or a woman who is gay or
lesbian "coming out" of the closet, implying a "hiding" of the
acknowledgment of one's sexual orientation. This can be a HUGE deal.
From my perspective, coming out has even broader meanings. For instance, there are
straight individuals that "come out" as being into SM or BD
(sadism/masochism or bondage/domination). Others "come out" as nudists, or
doll collectors, or any number of things. The idea of "coming out" really started with Plato's "Cave" analogy (ask me about that when you come in!). In our lives, secrets can eat us up from the inside-out. Letting out the secret in a safe way, in a safe space is the "coming out of the closet." It's the sending up the balloon of our fears and truly releasing it so that we feel more whole in our lives.
Coming
out has the implication of bringing a part of myself, whatever part that
may be, into acknowledgment and ultimately, acceptance. Acceptance of
something about myself that I've not up to this point accepted.
As I see it,
it takes courage to come out. Whether the acknowledgement is one of a sexual
nature or of something completely different.
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Thank You Metropolitan Community Church
of
West Hollywood, California!
I had the honor of facilitating a discussion on
"Emotionally Safe Sex"
with the "Youth Tribe" on
Friday December 8, 2006
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Are your Sexual Behaviors
Out of Control?
www.sexcoach.net
(not up/running yet
December 2005)
Spending too much money on it?
Spending too much time on it?
Spending too much energy on it?
Is someone else telling you you are?
If your sexual behaviors are
OUT OF CONTROL
You may be
hurting your family
hurting your children
yourself ( ↑ STDs, ↑ feelings of "Aloneness," ↑ feelings of not being worthy)
www.sexcoach.net
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I begin to explore the depth and richness of sexuality at www.sexcoach.net
(not up/running yet
December 2005)
If you're interested in developing a relationship with your sexuality, know that it can be a profound avenue to explore.
Information on Sexually Transmitted Infections and Diseases
Pre-couple counseling
Information on SM/BD that was once contained on this page ins now at:
www.sexcoach.net
(not up/running yet
December 2005)
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